Recently my two-year granddaughter demonstrated what she had learned at her nursery school, emphasizing by pointing her finger and yelling STOP! NO! MINE! I was stunned! Imagine the difference for all of us who were abused as children if we had been taught that we have every right to tell any one who puts their hands on us in a way that violates what is private and ours had better back off.
Wise parents assures their children, boys as well as girls, that if anyone touches us in our sacred places, we should yell as loud as we can. We should tell a trusted adult and hopefully they will see that it doesn’t happen again. We should make sure our children learn self defense by discovering the power of yelling their mantra at the top of their lungs
A few days later I had a flashback, followed by a debilitating panic attack. Instead of holding my breath, I yelled over and over STOP! NO! MINE!
What have you found works for you?